Session Three: Parenting vs Career
Carol – Today’s topic: Is it more important for parents to focus on their career or on bringing up their families?
A2 (boy) – Can I just tell you some good news I’ve deleted Grand Theft Auto off my ipad. (Referring to previous discussion)
I (boy) – In between, mine do focus on work but they help me with my homework. We all need money only children get bored if they do too much work.
A1 (boy) – In the middle. You’re not just children you are also people.
A3 (boy) – My dad’s an architect ‘cos the place he works is not paying him enough for six months he’s been looking for a new place to work. He comes home and he is always looking for a new place to work.
N (boy) – My dad goes to work everyday and every weekend.
P (girl) – My dad works from home. He’s always busy and I don’t know when I can talk to him.
I (boy) – When dad is at home he is in his office in the evening he works on his laptop.
J (boy) – Parents should work half and half, work half days.
E (girl) – In my family Saturday is family time. Sunday is when we do homework. Both my parents are busy, Mum and I like to hangout on Saturday.
Carol – Do other families have hang out times?
P (girl) – My dad is a Christian minister. My Dad is doing sermons on Sunday. He is only paid two days a week but he works seven. When we go on holiday he is preaching at a different church so he never really has a holiday.
Carol – Do you think it is the same for Mums and Dads whether they should focus on their career or their family?
L (girl) – I spend more time with my Mum.
Carol –Who prefers to have time with their mum? Hands up. Mum 12, 4 Boys 8 Girls; Dad zero!, Both 5 Girls
E (girl) – My Mum is a bit funnier but my dad is more manly. I’d be embarrassed talking to my dad about make-up.
B (girl) – I’d ask my Mum if I wanted to go shopping but Mum is a mood swinger. If she is in a bad mood I just keep out of her way.
J (girl) joined the group
A3 (boy) – My parents are always in a grump. My dad hates me.
Carol – Is that because he is so stressed about finding a job?
A3 (boy) – If I don’t do a question on my homework he gets really mad.
Carol – What about your Mum?
A3 (boy) – Yes she’s nice.
A1 (boy) – We fight 24/7 except on family days when we don’t. It’s because there is all of us and the cats.
Carol – Do all parents get the grumps sometime?
J (boy) – My Mum does but she works with women who suffer domestic abuse.
Carol – I’m having to decide at the moment what to do about my career because I’m passionate about what I’m doing, sex education, but I’m also a Mum and both are important. Should my kids be more important?
S (girl) – Kids are more important than a job- you need money- but if kids are ill they should have their parents at home.
Carol: I also think it is important for me to be a role model for my children to show them what I can achieve at work.
S (girl) – You should have time for a job, and time for your kids, and time for yourself.
M (girl) – You need a job and to be with your kids.
A2 (boy) – It’s a different thing but it’s important to me, I found a cat and I kept it so it was my cat and it had eleven kittens. My neighbour wasn’t happy because the kittens were mewing all night and she put all eleven kittens in a bag and threw it in the river and the kittens all died. I told her I would never forgive her.
L (girl) – You could have reported her. They are her (the cats) kids and that is like killing eleven of someone’s kids.
Carol – Well that happens in dairy farming. The young calves are taken from the mother so that we can have milk and cheese.
A2 (boy) – My cat is now with my grandparents. Later she had four or five kittens and she kept them.
E (girl) – What country were you in?
A2 (boy) – Iran. When you live in a country without laws you can’t say anything.
Carol – Every animal is some animal’s child. If you eat lamb or chicken…what about carrots? They are the carrot babies?
A1 (boy) – If a cat was like a person and had eleven children then an ogre/giant came and put them in a bag…it would be like that.
J (boy) – With a cat the kits could have grown up.
D (boy) – In China over one thousand cats are slaughtered and killed and eaten.
Carol: In China hundreds of thousands of baby girls are killed at birth or in pregnancy, in Pakistan and in India too. Why do you think that is?
L (girl) – If you had a daughter and she went away to live with her husband and look after his parents when they are old there would be no one left to look after you. Some countries have orphanages set up for girls because no one wants them.
H (girl) – going back to cats, my kittens were close to being put down but my dad found someone who could take them in.
Someone – S stole a cat!
S (girl) – This woman left a cat for two when she went to America so I carried it home. My Mum wasn’t happy but my Gran said ‘give it some pork pie it’ll be right.’ Now it lives with me. It had worms and fleas and we had to flea bomb the whole house and worm it but now my Mum likes it and she says, ‘Come to Mummy.’
Time ran out – group disbanded without any time to sum up.